by Sally Race
Every year, World Suicide Prevention Day serves as a poignant reminder that each one of us has the power to make a difference in someone’s life. In a world where mental health struggles often remain hidden behind smiles and social facades, it is crucial to become more aware of the subtle signs of distress in those around us. This awareness can empower us to offer the support that could potentially save a life.
Recognising the Signs of Low Mood
Low mood is often the precursor to more severe mental health issues, including suicidal thoughts. Recognising it in someone can be challenging, especially when they may be trying to conceal their feelings. However, there are key signs to look out for:
1. Changes in Behaviour: One of the most noticeable indicators is a shift in a person’s usual behaviour. They may become withdrawn, avoiding social interactions they once enjoyed. Alternatively, they might display sudden irritability or anger, reacting more strongly to situations than they typically would.
2. Loss of Interest: A person experiencing low mood may lose interest in activities they previously found pleasurable. Hobbies, work, or even spending time with loved ones may no longer hold the same appeal.
3. Physical Symptoms: Sometimes, emotional distress manifests physically. Look out for signs such as changes in sleep patterns, whether that be insomnia or excessive sleeping, changes in appetite, or unexplained aches and pains.
4. Expressing Hopelessness: If someone begins to talk about feeling hopeless, helpless, or trapped, take it seriously. Phrases like “What’s the point?” or “I just can’t see a way out” are red flags that they might be experiencing deep despair.
5. Decline in Self-Care: Neglecting personal hygiene or a noticeable lack of care in appearance can also be indicative of a low mood. It may reflect a loss of motivation or a sense that they no longer see value in taking care of themselves.
How to Reach Out and Offer Support
If you suspect someone you care about is struggling, reaching out to them can feel daunting. You might worry about saying the wrong thing or making the situation worse. However, the worst thing you can do is nothing. Here are some compassionate ways to approach the conversation:
1. Choose the Right Moment: Find a quiet, private place where you can talk without interruptions. Timing is also important; try to choose a moment when the person seems more relaxed, if possible.
2. Express Your Concern Gently: Start the conversation by expressing your concern in a non-judgmental way. You might say something like, “I’ve noticed that you’ve seemed a bit down lately, and I’m worried about you. Is everything okay?”
3. Listen Without Judgement: If they open up, listen to them without interrupting or offering immediate solutions. Sometimes, just having someone listen can provide a tremendous sense of relief. Avoid making assumptions or minimising their feelings, as this can lead to them shutting down.
4. Offer Your Support: Let them know you’re there for them, whatever they’re going through. Simple statements like “You’re not alone” or “I’m here for you, no matter what” can be incredibly powerful.
5. Encourage Professional Help: While your support is invaluable, encourage them to seek professional help as well. You could say, “Have you thought about talking to a therapist or counsellor? I could help you find someone if you’d like.”
6. Follow Up: After your initial conversation, continue to check in with them. Letting them know that your concern wasn’t just a one-off will reinforce that they are valued and supported.
The Importance of Self-Care
Supporting someone in distress can be emotionally draining, so it’s crucial to take care of your own mental health as well. Ensure you have your own support system in place, whether that be friends, family, or a therapist. Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Final Thoughts
World Suicide Prevention Day is a time for all of us to reflect on the ways we can support those around us. By learning to recognise the signs of low mood and reaching out with compassion, we can each play a part in preventing suicide. Your words and actions, no matter how small they may seem, could make all the difference in someone’s life.
Remember, you don’t have to be an expert to offer support—you just have to care. Let’s work together to create a world where everyone feels heard, valued, and supported.
Take care of yourself and those around you, Sally 🧡
