Do you talk to yourself???
The answer is undoubtedly yes! We all do, maybe it stays in our heads, maybe it’s out loud, but either way we all do it.
But, did you know the importance of your self talk? And that it can either help you to get what you want out of life or block you from getting it?
Once you know, you know. It’s not whether you talk out load or not, it’s the type of language you use that makes the difference between achieving what you want… or not.
Newsflash!!
**Your automatic thoughts are changeable **
It takes practice, but it can be quite fast once you make the decision to just do it.
So here’s how.
- start noticing what kind of self talk pops up for you. Is it worrying thoughts of what might go wrong? Critical thoughts about yourself or your abilities?
- Jot them down
- When you have a reasonable sized list to work with, have a look at what you’ve written. Would you say any of those things out loud to someone you love and or respect? Probably not. Think what the opposite is to each negative thing you have written. E.g. I’m rubbish at cooking (but would like to be good). Could be changed to; I can give myself the time and space and correct ingredients and practice to become better at cooking.
- Write a new positive, kind sentence for every negative one.
- Rip up the negative list and throw it away.
- Every time you find yourself thinking or starting to think a negative or unkind thought, stop and swap it for a positive, kind one.
- Practice, practice, practice! This will build new neural pathways in your brain (neuroplasticity) and gradually become your new automatic thinking process.
With these improved thoughts your mind will begin to automatically seek out the things you want, noticing opportunities that it would previously have steered you away from.
Have a go, it costs nothing and you have so much to gain. I’d love to hear how you get on.
Sally 😊
